Mens' Lifestyle and Happiness Tutorial

When I write 'men' I mean young men who may be younger than 18. 18 is the age at which in th eyes of the law people become adults. But in evolutonary biology and evolutionary psychology some males reach sexual, emotional and social maturity sooner than others.  This is obvious.

Here in Brazil there is a Portuguese-language magazine called 'Veja'.  It features interviews with a surprising number of foreign intellectuals.  Mrs Beaumont buys it on a regular basis and I usually can't resist a casual flick-through. Last week's edition caught my eye because it was by a British economist and it was about happiness. The essence was 'what makes people happy'. For a man to be happy - and we are talking about a man's evolutionary psychology here - he needs three things.  These are

• a social life
• an occupation
• a wife or girlfriend

Seems simple enough, doesn't it?  Yet my own life's experience, which is the reason for this blog, has taught me that these three things are by no means easy to obtain.  And please, let's be clear on this.  You have to have them all at the same time in order to lead a happy and fulfilled life, dude.

 I consider the very best PUAs (Pick Up Artists) as analysts. So let us analyse a key área to attend to to in order to get a girlfriend. This follows on from the recente article of the same title. Body language. You should stand up straight, like there is a cord in your chest, attached to the chest's sternal angle, pulling you up. I talk about the sternal angle because I think this is the best place for you to visualize.

Head.  Hold it up. This needs more explanation.  Which leads me on to

Eyes. When in a mixed (men and women) social situation, give some thought as to who the tallest men are.  Make relaxed eye contact with these men, and don't forget to maintain it with the brashest, most confident, assertive, aggressive or narcissitic males in the group.  But be casual about it and ready to laugh at yourself if they make jokes about you with women present.  Because the woman you are interested in will be watching your reaction.  Cool, calm, and collected is what you should be, with a relaxed sense of humour.  That is, socially intellugent. 

The woman's evolutionary psychology has evolved to be attracted to this behaviour.  The men in the group should take 60% of your body language's attention in a social interaction, and the women present, 40%.  Of course this is not a hard and fast rule; social situations are dynamic. But until the social dynamic of the group changes, that is a good guideline.

And here is what is important.  The moment you changed from looking to the man to looking at the woman when she speaks in the group, then that is a natural angle at which to hold your head. At this moment your eye musculature will be 'social', that, relaxed. Brilliant! You are demonstrataing social intelligence through your body language.

Eye contact is vital in an interaction with a woman. It should be relaxed.  I won't go into musculature of the eyes, it is complicated and unnecessary.  But you should not look down in your interaction with your woman. A woman's evolutinary psychology interprets this, on a subliminal level, as weakness. Weakness is the opposite of strength, and a woman wants strength from her man.  In this case, by 'strength' I mean that you should be aiming to vanquish from your body language signs of a lack of confidence. By looking to the sides when you break eye contact, this one way that your eyes can convey strength/confidence.  And when moving your eyeballs, do it slowly.

 The group's social dynamic will change.  When you are able to talk on a more individual level with the woman, when listening to her and trying to inject more humour and flirtation into the interaction, try and find reason to use a cocked eyebrow.   This advice will maintain your head and eyes moving the way they need to be in a social interaction, whether you are standing or sitting. There is more to be said on body language.  For now, thank you for reading.

A word of caution to help you develop your social intelligence. Beware if there is a narcissist presente.  Narcissism exists along a spectrum. Now, if the group perceives that you are interested in somebody in it, you can expect some jokes about it to your face.  But that should be all. If, however, one person starts to go over the top, is persistent to the point of being antissocial or even going beyond a koje and being isulting, that could be a sign of narcissism. I was subjected to it for the first hlaf of the year. Indeed, it is one reason I started the blog. There is a way to deal with it, but my advice is to use the maximum discretion in the interaction with the girl you like at that particular time.